Over the last 60 years or so, our country, our society and our religious organizations have unfortunately largely gutted the institution of marriage. Decades ago, marriage used to be a sacred institution; today it is nothing more than a ceremonial institution. Now, before you get all upset, please take a deep breath, relax and read on, so that I can try to explain my logic.
Today, thousands of couples will get married in elaborate, often religious ceremonies; tomorrow, thousands of couples will get divorced, by simply signing papers in a lawyer’s office. Today, marriages are conditional, with legal clauses and pre-nuptial agreements. Marriage in our country today is nothing more than a civil union between two people, who may change their mind tomorrow. And when divorce happens, the religious organizations that support this so-called sacred institution shrug their collective shoulders, dust off their hands and walk away. Are these religious organizations demonstrating responsibility? No. Hypocrisy? I’m afraid so.
So if it’s not the institution of marriage itself that is sacred, what is? I believe it’s the hoped-for result from marriage that should be considered sacred: That result is the family. For it is the family that ensures that future generations in our country carry on the work ethic, integrity and character that the parents have. We used to have these values, passed down from the elders to the young. These values helped to make our country strong.
Today, we have news reports of the proliferation of gangs, drug use, kids having children, divorce rates of 50%, half of all urban students never graduating high school and even mothers throwing babies away in garbage cans. We are losing those values. Yet here we are, trying to legislate and define a marriage as being between a man and a woman. If we were to legislate marriage as such, would that legislation help to educate kids, reduce drug use, reduce the divorce rate and end the proliferation of “throw away” kids and babies? Of course not. If it did, then we should all be in favor of that legislation. Legislation won’t help. In fact, the mess we have now was created by a man and a woman.
What people fail to realize is that generations ago, marriage was the tool that enabled that institution, “The Family” to flourish. (Think of marriage as a means to an end.) No more. You want marriage to be special and sacred today? Then don’t allow married couples to divorce. It was that way for a reason 60 years ago, to insure that the young had a fighting chance to obtain the attitudes, beliefs and work ethic that could be passed down from their elders. But divorce has become an integral element in our society and not easily removed. So what do we have today? We have nothing more than “Civil Unions”, with pre-nups, legal clauses and conditions.
But what if that “Civil Union” couple can remain together for decades, develop a Family and pass on the sense of stability and ethical instruction to their children? Then and only then, can we say they have a true Marriage, because they have weathered the years of aggravation of being together, have provided for their young and can take pride in how their children have grown and succeeded in life. THAT, DEAR READER, IS WHAT IS SACRED!
Now hopefully, you are beginning to realize; there is nothing sacred about an act of “Marriage” between a man and a woman when a divorce is a phone call away. There is something sacred however, about two people who live together for decades, have a Family, support and instruct that Family, and insure that Family members have developed a sense of tolerance, ethics, integrity and character that can be passed on to future generations. This is what you must remember from this article above all else: Today, it is the Family that creates the Marriage, it is not the marriage that creates the Family. The Family is the sacred institution we should be supporting, both by religious groups and by our government.
And if that sacred result is created (or developed) by two men, two women, or a man and a woman, does it really matter? Of course not, if the end result is bright, intelligent young people, tolerant of others, successful in life and contributing to society.
I hope you agree.